Together with their families

诚邀您见证我们的婚礼

Mei& Daniel

request the pleasure of your company

4:00 PM

The Jade Court Pavilion San Francisco, California

Illustration of Mei and Daniel seen from behind, standing side by side before layered green hills and a pale full moon, she in a red dress and he in a dark suit, a thin red thread running slack from her hand to his

Countdown

until Ceremony

192 days until Ceremony

Schedule

  1. 6:30 PM

    Welcome Dinner

    When
    Friday, May 21, 2027, 6:30 PM – 9:30 PM PDT
    Where
    Golden Osmanthus Seafood House728 Clement Street, San Francisco, CA 94118
    Attire
    Dressy casualLayers: the fog comes in after dark.
    Notes
    Ten courses, family style, with both families at the round tables. Come hungry.
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  1. 10:00 AM

    Tea Ceremony

    When
    Saturday, May 22, 2027, 10:00 AM – 11:30 AM PDT
    Where
    The Jade Court Pavilion — Garden Room88 Willow Terrace, San Francisco, CA 94118
    Attire
    Semi-formalRed and gold are welcome. Please leave all white and all black at home.
    Notes
    For family and the wedding party. We serve tea to our parents and elders in order, the Chens first, then the Parks.
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  2. 4:00 PM

    Ceremony

    When
    Saturday, May 22, 2027, 4:00 PM – 4:45 PM PDT
    Where
    The Jade Court Pavilion — Courtyard88 Willow Terrace, San Francisco, CA 94118
    Attire
    FormalFormal. The courtyard is paved; any heel is fine. Bring a wrap for the evening.
    Notes
    Please be seated by 3:45. The ceremony is in English, with a reading in Mandarin and one in Korean.
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  3. 5:00 PM

    Paebaek (폐백)

    When
    Saturday, May 22, 2027, 5:00 PM – 5:40 PM PDT
    Where
    The Jade Court Pavilion — Garden Room88 Willow Terrace, San Francisco, CA 94118
    Attire
    FormalCome as you are from the ceremony. We change into hanbok.
    Notes
    During cocktail hour. Everyone is welcome to watch; the door stays open and so does the bar.
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  4. 6:30 PM

    Banquet & Dancing

    When
    Saturday, May 22, 2027, 6:30 PM – 11:00 PM PDT
    Where
    The Jade Court Pavilion — Moon Hall88 Willow Terrace, San Francisco, CA 94118
    Attire
    FormalDark suits and ties; long dresses, formal cocktail dresses or elegant separates.
    Notes
    Dinner at 7, toasts between courses, dancing from 9. We will come round to every table.
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  1. 10:30 AM

    Dim Sum Send-Off

    When
    Sunday, May 23, 2027, 10:30 AM – 1:00 PM PDT
    Where
    Golden Osmanthus Seafood House728 Clement Street, San Francisco, CA 94118
    Attire
    CasualWhatever you feel good in. Comfortable shoes are a good idea.
    Notes
    Carts until one. Daniel orders the egg tarts; do not let him order all of them.
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Our story

The wrong table

In 2019 Mei sat down at a dim sum table in the Richmond that was not her family’s. Daniel’s grandmother poured her tea before anyone could explain. She stayed for the whole meal.

Two kitchens

Mei learned to make his mother’s kimchi jjigae; Daniel learned to fold dumplings, badly, at her father’s elbow. Both families now claim to have taught the other everything.

The thread

Daniel asked on the Lands End trail in the fog, with a ring tied to his wrist by a length of red thread so he could not lose it. Mei kept the thread.

Wedding party

  • Lin Chen

    Maid of Honor

    Mei’s sister, and the one who finally explained whose table it was.

  • Joon Park

    Best Man

    Daniel’s brother. Has the rings and a spare set, just in case.

  • Priscilla Ong

    Bridesmaid

    College roommate. Running the tea ceremony like a stage manager.

  • Marcus Reyes

    Groomsman

    Climbing partner, and the loudest voice at karaoke.

Traditions

Tea ceremony (敬茶)

On the morning of the wedding we kneel and serve tea to our parents and elders, in order of seniority, to thank them. They answer with blessings and often a red envelope or a piece of jewelry.

Paebaek (폐백)

A Korean family ceremony. In hanbok, we bow to our parents and share tea; they toss dates and chestnuts, which we try to catch in a cloth. The number caught is said to tell how many children will follow. We make no promises.

Red envelopes

Red stands for luck and joy, which is why you will see so much of it. If you would like to give a gift, an envelope is the custom in both our families; there will be a box at the banquet.

Travel & stay

Where to stay

Airports

  • SFO San Francisco International Airport about 30 minutes
  • OAK Oakland International Airport about 40 minutes
  • SJC San José Mineta International Airport about 1 hour 10 minutes

Getting around

A shuttle runs between The Presidio Gate Inn and the pavilion from 3 pm on Saturday; the last one back leaves at 11:15 pm. Parking near the pavilion is scarce, so a rideshare is the easy choice.

Good to know

Late May in San Francisco is cool and often foggy: around 62°F by day and 52°F after dark. Bring a jacket, whatever the forecast says.

Things to do

  • Walk the Lands End trail Where he asked. Go in the morning, before the fog lifts.
  • Dim sum on Clement Street Ask us for the list. We have opinions.

Gallery

  • The wrong table, 2019
  • Fog over the Golden Gate
  • Plum blossom in February
  • Tea for the elders
  • A pair of wedding ducks
  • He tied the ring to his wrist
Illustration of a bamboo steamer of dumplings beside a teapot and two cups on a round table
Photo 1 of 6 The wrong table, 2019

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Welcome Dinner Friday, May 21, 2027, 6:30 PM – 9:30 PM
Tea Ceremony Saturday, May 22, 2027, 10:00 AM – 11:30 AM
Ceremony Saturday, May 22, 2027, 4:00 PM – 4:45 PM
Banquet & Dancing Saturday, May 22, 2027, 6:30 PM – 11:00 PM
Dim Sum Send-Off Sunday, May 23, 2027, 10:30 AM – 1:00 PM
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Registry

Questions

Formal for the ceremony and banquet. Red is lucky and very welcome; we would only ask you to avoid wearing all white or all black.

Family and the wedding party. If it is on your reply form, we would love to have you there.

Yes, to everything. There will be a kids’ table at the banquet and a quiet room off the hall.

Your reply form shows how many seats we have saved for you.

Yes. The courtyard, the garden room and the hall are step-free, and there is an elevator from the street.

Links below. Red envelopes are just as welcome, and so is simply coming.